As far as holidays go, Mother’s Day is special. Gifts need careful consideration, an extra thoughtfulness. Certainly, jewelry is appreciated. Who wouldn’t want a small box, a total surprise, a lump-in-the-throat sense of anticipation? And you get the “what did you do, I can’t believe you did this” look. But there’s more to Mother’s Day than what money can buy.
Here are a few thoughts about Mother’s Day, based on informal polling of friends and my own experiences as a mother of two children, ages 9 and 7.
First of all, acknowledge that the term “Mother” is more expansive than someone who gave birth to another human being. Celebrate and salute the person who cares like a mother: the Aunt whose love knows no bounds; the super dog mom.
Remember that it’s not ok to say that Mother’s Day is a “Hallmark Holiday” or made-up. Moms are unsung heroes every day, 24/7. It’s important to set aside one day to say “thank you, I acknowledge you, I see every little gesture of love.”
Time is probably the greatest gift you can give. To the mothers of younger children, this means time alone. No one literally hanging onto your body. Time to be pampered. Time to read. Time to shower. Time uninterrupted.
To moms of older children, time might mean something different. Take time out of your life to call her. Spend time making her lunch. Devote time.
Handmade cards NEVER get old.
Cook her a meal with food that SHE wants to eat (not the food she short-order cooks for the picky eaters in the family). And plan it so that she doesn’t have to think about it, shop for it, and clean off the table so she can eat it.
Never, ever let a mom do dishes on Mother’s Day.
Try not to NEED a mother on Mother’s Day the way that you need her every other day.
Celebrate her. Think about her and what she would want, the same way she thinks about everyone else every other day.
Happy Mother’s Day to every mother’s heart out there.